Wednesday, August 6, 2014

Peaceful, Uneasy Feeling

Since my sophomore year in college, I felt restless, uneasy.  I struggled a lot with finding my place in life, where God’s will would take me.  I spent a lot of time in college trying to “find myself,” without much luck.  There were phases when I really thought I knew, and then times would God would shatter that view and I would have to start all over again.  After college, the struggle continued for me.  I had moved to Nashville after graduation, found a good job at a prominent preschool in Brentwood, and had found an awesome church in Brentwood Baptist Church.  But that restless and uneasy feeling continued to eat at me.  I felt like God was toying with me, making it impossible to see His will.  But I was selfish, self-seeking, and lonely.  I kept blaming everything else in my life on why I felt this way.  I became angry with God and with myself because I never really felt myself moving on or progressing towards what I wanted.  God had been prodding at me for so long to pursue a life in missions and I continued to ignore His call because I knew that a life in missions would be hard and uncertain.  I wanted to be in control of where I ended up.  But God had such a different plan, and boy am I glad He did.

One morning service at Brentwood Baptist, a visiting medical missionary said something that only added to my uneasy feeling.  He said that God calls everyone to put their lives aside to be missionaries for His kingdom.  I was sitting there thinking, “Really, dude?  You think God wants all of us to sell all of our belongings and move to who knows where doing who knows what?!  That sounds nice, but it’s just not realistic.  God wants me right where I am.”  I firmly believe that God has a sense of humor because after I heard that statement, I couldn’t get away from the idea that God was calling me to more.  I kept coming in contact with missionaries and I had a lot of conversations with close friends, where out of the blue, they would tell me that missions was my calling.  And I continued life with my head down selfishly with my comfortable job, with my comfortable life, with my comfortable friends.  Even with all of the comfort I had placed around me, in complete denial of God’s call for me, I felt more uncomfortable and unfulfilled than I ever had.  By all accounts, I should have been ecstatic, but I just wasn't.  I tried to force it, but I knew that something was missing, I just didn't know what.  So much of my life after graduation was focused on me.  What career path should I take?  Should I go back to school?  How much money could I make doing that job?  Amy, Amy, Amy.  So much of my focus was on me.  I got to the point where I had to something to fill this hole inside me.  And if I am honest, in the back of my mind, I knew God was calling me to something I wasn't ready to do.  He was calling me to put my life aside.

When I moved back to Johnson City, God started to really work on me. I moved back in September 2013.  I continued with the same routine.  Amy, Amy, Amy.  What job should I pursue here?  Which grad school am I going to apply to?  How am I going to make money?  Same selfish questions, different city.  I started substituting in Elizabethton City Schools to make money.  Let me tell you, substitute teachers aren't making the big bucks.  It was hard to move back home and immediately have to rely on my parents again for money.  It's hard to be 24 and to have to ask your parents for money when you hadn't been doing so before.  But God gave me something so much more valuable in my time as a substitute teacher than money, He gave me clarity.  As a sub, I did a lot of sitting around.  And I was an English major in college so one of my favorite things to do is read.  I read a lot as a sub to fill time.  One morning, I was picking a book off of my shelf to take to school with me.  I picked the book, Kisses from Katie.  That book had been on my shelf for three years, and I had purposefully not read it.  I knew that once I read that book, that I wouldn't be able to ignore God's call to put my life aside anymore.  I knew it was going to make me uncomfortable, much like the missionary's statement. 

The book tells the story of Katie Davis, a girl from Brentwood, TN. (Coincidence, I think not.)  She felt God calling her to move to Uganda after she graduated high school, instead of taking the typical route of going to college.  Well, long story short, she ends up moving there permanently and adopting 13 little girls there that needed a mother.  She was 19 years old! Her story is amazing; you should really read the book so you can understand the profound effect that it had on me.  From the first page of the book, I was a puddle of tears.  The however many years of dissatisfaction and longing for more was making its way to the surface.  One quote from the book really stood out to me.  Katie said, "I didn't believe it was possible to tell a child about the love of Christ without simultaneously showing that love by feeding her, clothing her, inviting her in.  If a child has never known what love is, how can we expect him to accept the love of his Savior until we first make that love tangible?"  This question hit me hard because of where I was sitting when I read it.  I was sitting in a classroom full of students at Harold McCormick Elementary.  I had been in many classrooms in this school and had seen firsthand how much the kids in this school needed.  Physical needs, but also emotional needs.  I looked at the faces of the children in front of me and it became so clear to me why God had put me where I was.  He put me here to find a way to provide for them.  He put me there to show them God's love through giving them what they need. 

There aren’t words to describe how I felt when I finally realized God’s call and decided to say, “Yes! Absolutely, God!  Whatever you need from me!”  It’s a feeling that I can only describe using the great philosophers, The Eagles.  It was like a peaceful, uneasy feeling. (I took a little creative liberty there.)  I couldn’t eat, sleep, or interact with others without being completely overwhelmed with God’s purpose.  I think I cried for three days straight.  A good kind of crying.  It was like I had been completely broken for God’s people.  Luke 12: 33-34 says, “Sell your possessions, and give to the needy. Provide yourselves with moneybags that do not grow old, with a treasure in the heavens that does not fail, where no thief approaches and no moth destroys. For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.”  I believe 150% that God’s greatest call in any believer’s life is to put their life aside to further His kingdom.  For some, that might mean being a teacher, doctor, or vacuum salesman, but for me it meant putting everything in my life aside to start a community center in Elizabethton. 

My favorite theologian, Dietrich Bonhoeffer says this, “Costly grace is the gospel which must be sought again and again and again, the gift which must be asked for, the door at which a man must knock. Such grace is costly because it calls us to follow, and it is grace because it calls us to follow Jesus Christ. It is costly because it costs a man his life, and it is grace because it gives a man the only true life. It is costly because it condemns sin and grace because it justifies the sinner. Above all, it is costly because it cost God the life of his Son: 'Ye were bought at a price’ and what has cost God much cannot be cheap for us. Above all, it is grace because God did not reckon his Son too dear a price to pay for our life, but delivered him up for us. Costly grace is the Incarnation of God.”  I really don’t think it can be put in better words than that.  Every time I read that quote I start to sob like a baby, because I have experienced the sentiment he expresses.  I hope that everyone at some point in their life experiences what I have in God’s calling.  I look forward to this uncertain, but peaceful time in my life.  I know that incredible things happen when I say yes to God’s will, and I can’t wait to see where it takes me.  More updates to come soon.

In Christ,


  1. Hey Amy,
    You're at an age now and certainly savvy enough to be able to look back and recognized that the struggles you were going through were placing you on a direct path to where you have found yourself today. I understand how it feels to have doors closed that I thought would surely be opened be opened for me only to find doors opened where I didn't even know doors existed. Its the best feeling in the world the moment you realize God has your own personal little life right smack dab in the palm of his hand as if you're the only one that matters. I have no doubt that the journey you're embarking on will have a big impact on lives that God has already chosen to send your way. I think I can speak for Joni when I say that we're very proud of you. I look forward to see how this life of yours will impact others.

  2. I think it's great that you know God's will for your life at such a young age. I'm sure your persistence will pay off and the community center will become a reality. I think it's not so much the poverty, but that people don't properly utilize the resources they have. They waste money on lottery tickets, hoping to win "the big one", when that money could go toward feeding and clothing their children or paying off their debts. A few dollars here and there for lottery tickets quickly adds up.

    As a working single parent, I raised my child on a bare bones budget. We didn't have cable TV, cell phones, or a computer. At one point we were without a car for several months. I rode the bus to work. Friends handed down clothing that their own children had outgrown. I shopped sales and never paid full price if I could help it. Each time I went shopping, I bought a few school supplies so that my daughter never ran short. My parents gave us a VCR for Christmas one year, but instead of renting movies at Blockbuster we checked them out for free at the public library. I won't say I never wasted money or made unwise purchases, but I became adept at pinching pennies. We never went without food, clothing, or shelter. Today my daughter is a college graduate and married with a family of her own. If people could learn to do without things they don't need, the poverty in this area might not be quite as bad.